When we talk about forgiving somebody we often think about forgiving someone whole heartedly. Seems so difficult to do rite? It is indeed very hard and almost impossible to do that.

“Forgiving is an act of will, not from the heart”

Sounds scary but that’s the truth. Even if your heart says no but you can do it with just following not your heart but asking your head to say,

“I will forgive you and I will do that and say it”

It’s like saying :

“I love you, but I don’t like what you did. It hurts me. But I will forgive you”.

Well, to be honest it does bring something to me. Come on man … give me some space to write something useful and insightful. I mean this is something that we would love to talk about. (Only when we’re sane enough – which most of the time we are not)

I am reading this book currently titled “If You Really Love Me“. It’s a religious book la. I’ve been reading it for the past few months. I took a long while to finish a book actually. I just read when I feel like it. It’s an interesting story, I mean book. It talks about how a relationship should be based on, I mean in a sense that a lot of things that we took forgranted all these years. I guess for me it’s time to look back and reflect on what I have done in my life and what I haven’t.

Most of the time, we do care and take note of the things that we should have done right. Too much concentration on that make us lose track on what we do best. Well tend to say :

“I’ll improve on things that I’ve done badly”

But what about the good values you have? I mean the one that you already posses? That must stay. It’s a must.

One phrase that have been clinging on my mind of late :

“I don’t like what you did, but I still love you. That won’t change. Because what you did make me feel bad”

I don’t know. But it seems like it’s a phrase that really struck me deep down my thoughts.

Talking about relationships and all, all of us have gone through different phases of relationships. Friends, families, girlfriends and all sort of love. In general, we all are worthy to love and to be loved.

I had a chat with a friend last night and he said :

“Love is not like in movies, it’s not fantasies. It’s like this steel that I’m holding : cold, hard and when I smack your head with this, you will bleed”

He always says stuffs like that. Maybe he had bad experiences. I don’t blame him but look at the bright side of what he said, I think it’s almost true.Then he will continue his thoery of MONEY=LOVE=HAPPINESS.

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